lion loved cow so much, he decided one day to bring home the fattest deer to share with cow. cow knew something was off but she ate the prey and later became very very sick. cow loved lion though. so every time lion brought home a bloody meal, cow would hold back nausea and share in his hunted prize.
cow loved lion so much, she decided to bring lion to a family party. cow said, “try the grass, it’s my favourite.” lion did. he hated it. but he smiled and continued chomping away.
true. the two loved each other. but through days and days of getting sick from eating meat and after several parties munching on tasteless grass…
both cow and lion realized that this was never going to work.
you meet him by chance. or according to you, by “luck”. you start slow. being very careful not to show your cards. the thrill. the cycles of winning and losing hands. it both lures you to buy into the next round but guilts you into thinking it’s maybe time to stand up and call it quits.
as time passes, you realize, you’re running out of chips. what happened to having the upper hand? what happened to bluffing the other out?
you’re panicking now. it’s over. you know it. you place your last chip down knowing it’s your last.
to your surprise, you win. how are you still hanging on? you’re starting to build your stack back up. you’ve invested so much time and effort into this game, you can’t buy out now.
and it’s a gamble. are you willing to play that last chip or quit while you’re ahead?
and when do you sit back and just accept that sometimes, you just have to learn to play with the cards that you’ve been dealt with?
dear boys and girls who think it’s “fun” or a thrill to flirt with the “already taken”.
WHAT IS WRONG WITH YOU?
now i know some people have this theory that “well if it was that easy to break the two of you up, it wasn’t meant to be in the first place”.
i’m assuming they mean that if two people had a strong, healthy relationship, a little bit of pulling from a mr/mrs homewrecker wouldn’t have changed your signif’s mind anyway.
as much as i refuse to support anybody who deliberately tries to break a couple up, i agree with the above explanation. if two people love each other, trust each other and have confidence in themselves and each other, then a little bit of attention from he/she-who-is-“just a friend” wouldn’t hurt.
but here’s the deal.
it’s IRRITATING af. especially the unexperienced homewreckers who never succeed but who pop in and out of your relationship every now and then to remind you that they’re still around, waiting.
bottom line is, if you want something (or someone in this case), sure, fight for it. but do it the right way please.
hehehe’s at the end of a text or throwing in flirtatious remarks here and there isn’t really going to cut it. nice try though.
i lived my entire life believing that there was “the one” but apparently, we all have multiple “the ones” we shape the people we interact with and they in turn, shape you. you mould each other into your “one” this “one” is temporal. it’s dynamic. so in essence, you choose who “that one” will be and it’s not predetermined.
okay, so now the question is: how do you know you’ve chosen the right person to be “the one?” and when does finally choosing “the one” cross the thin line over to “settling”?